Nice things clients say about me...
The midwife screamed 'You need to push, like I told you, this is serious'. I looked at my husband colour was draining from his face at an alarming rate. The midwife said nothing but pressed a button and a siren type bell rang, within seconds (or so it seemed) a team of doctors of nurses entered the once calm delivery suite. They calmly explained the baby was stuck and the heart rate was dropping they said they would try a ventouse to help delivery. They placed the cap on the babies head and as I pushed they pulled, shouting 'Push now, come on push'. As the baby crowned I looked at my husband, he was engulfed in panic. He went to stand but his legs gave way, a nurse realised he was about to faint and led him out the suite. Within the next few minutes my beautiful baby daughter was born, meanwhile my husband was laid out in the corridors in a state of utter shock!
When I became pregnant again I realised two things, I wanted a better birth with my second child and having my husband there was not a great idea! One episode of 'One Born Every Minute' stuck in my head the lady giving birth had been assisted by a Doula. I recalled that the Doula used more natural techniques to support the mother during birth and was called a mother to the mother, I liked that idea, so with laptop resting on my bump I found Alex.
The moment I met Alex I really liked her and knew I wanted her to be part of this special moment. We talked informally about what I wanted from the birth and run through my health and history. She never put any of her own beliefs forward but instead had some great suggestions. After my last experience I was really worried about the birth of my second child and Alex had a real calming effect on me and I actually began looking forward to meeting my bump.
My husband describes Alex as a rock. Solid and dependable. I had one false alarm but Alex didn't mind she was there to support me and came to the hospital with me to make sure I was reassured. Alex called me everyday before the birth and my due date soon rolled round, the day my baby was due I was up with some faint pains but ended up calling Alex as I was bleeding and this frightened me, it was about 5.00am but Alex came straight round and took me to the hospital, when we arrived I couldn't walk properly that was odd but we slowly walked into the maternity department and waited to be examined. Alex had brought some lavender that I found calming and was really supportive. As they examined me panic ensued, I was 10 cm dilated!!! With Alex at my side and a dear friend, I gave birth to my little boy Beau River at 12.00 midday.
Alex made my second birth a much more positive experience and I would strongly recommend that anyone having a baby considers using a Doula. Not only did Alex support me but also helped guide me through having a more natural birth experience. If I were to have another baby I would want Alex at my side.
To anyone who is considering Sunshine Mama Doula and especially those who may not have thought of it:
The memory of my birth (which was at home, pain relief free and everything I could have wanted) still fills me (and my partner) with absolute joy and such a sense of achievement and pride - and I know I have Alex to thank for that. If your birth goes well you really feel like a tigress afterwards - and I know we couldn't have done it without her. She was absolutely brilliant - I really cannot do her justice in words. I am happy for anyone to contact me should they want to know more. In the meantime I would say go for it! It will be the best decision you will make during pregnancy and the best money spent. Alex is not just any doula - Alex is a wonderful person and her enthusiasm for the power of women in birthing is contagious, her approach feels both natural and professional. She made labour as stress free as it could possibly be and I am eternally and gladly in her debt for it. Memories of birth should be like sunshine - and Sunshine Mama Doula helps you achieve this for your family! [All partners out there who are not sure whether they wish to watch their loved one in labour - or Mammas-to-be who might sense they will want space from their partner to focus - I promise this is the perfect solution. You will feel so supported!)]